The truth about Work-Life Balance

Just as standing on one leg requires paying attention and constant small adjustments, our work-life balance requires the same. 

We are not designed to have all work and no life, nor all life and no work.

I love my work-life, it is an absolute privilege to lead a charity that has the potential to make such a difference, but if I am brutally honest, there are times when I don’t always love my home-life in quite the same way.

Work is the place where I believe I’m fulfilling my God-given purpose, I feel like I’m making a difference, most days I see progression, I can bring home some of the finances to provide food for my family and where I am often in charge or in control of day-to-day demands. Work also triggers the release of regular mini doses of Dopamine (our 'happy', but highly addictive, hormone) each time I complete something on my “to do list” or I hear another email notification.

Then there are my home days ….. these can easily feel pointless, as though I’m stuck in groundhog day! Where day-to-day chores feel like pushing jelly up the wall, where I am in relentless demand without breathing space, where it doesn’t seem to matter what gets done today, because tomorrow comes with the same socks needing to be picked up, the same lawns needing to be mowed, the same dishes needed to be emptied from the same dishwasher.

All this means my work-life can feel so much more rewarding than the relentless demands of my home-life.

Although the feelings might be real, we need to hold a healthy tension between work and home. If we don’t, it is most likely to be at the cost of our home-life relationships with family and friends.

We may be the only spouse to our partners, the only parent to our kids or the only child to our parents. One day, either they will all be gone, or we will. 

Becoming addicted to success, to the pursuit of perfection, at the expense of fulfilling a relational role that only we can, means we could miss out on our true meaning of life.

Someone else could do our jobs, but to our families we can never be replaced.

If we want to be more intentional about our work-life balance, a really good exercise is to write down how we want our family and friends to remember us and then be intentional about living in a way that makes that possible. 

To help you, here are 5 brave questions you could ask yourself. Painful as they might be, they will help you be more intentional about where you spend your time, money and energy:

  • 1
    How do we want to be remembered?
  • 2
    How does our current work-life balance contribute to how we are going to be remembered?
  • 3
    Is there a gap?
  • 4
    Are you happy with that gap?
  • 5
    If yes, that’s great and you can review again on a regular basis. If no, what do you need to start doing differently today?

I hope the above questions will be of help to you, and I would love to know how you get on.


As for me, I’m off to spend time with my family. 

Nicky Dix  •  niky@intentionalhealth.uk 

If you want to find out more about Intentional Health, including how we help others be intentional about their health and our vision to partner with communities all over the UK, then please also get in touch, or visit our website www.intentionalhealth.uk

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